HUSBAND SCARCITY? WHY LADIES DON'T GET SUITABLE HUSBANDS

HUSBAND SCARCITY? WHY LADIES DON’T GET SUITABLE HUSBANDS

Apparently, there are men and they are available in abundance. However, the husband scarcity phenomenon is becoming a matter of concern to families and especially the female folk who still view the family institution as essential to their existence and happiness. It is not that the ratio of men and women born are as wide as to lead to the non-availability of men. In many countries where the birth rate and their demographic were studied, it was discovered that 2% gap on the average exist among the two sexes.

So why husband scarcity?

These are some of the reasons why husbands are scarce:

1.         The missing men: At some stage, it is discovered that young boys end up in prison, and may end up as drug addicts especially among black men in Europe and America. These could have been someone's husband.

2.         More men engage in military and para-military activities, and are being endangered. They die in Iraq, Afghanistan and other war-ravaged countries. Only few women engage in combat activities.

3.         Another reason for husband scarcity is that men engage in militancy and are constantly enrolled in terror groups across the world. They come face to face with deadly weapons and battle it out with government troops. More are being wasted.

4.         The education of the girl-child has seen more ladies take up high responsibilities and may not be a perfect match for uneducated men.

5.          Since birds of same feathers flock together, it is believed that low self-esteem and men’s ego could lead to them going after less educated ones who will have more time for them and family rather than the carrier woman.

6.          In some cases, some women raise the bar for themselves by constructing in their mind the kind of man they want e.g. rich, tall, handsome, educated etc, and may deliberately ignore advances by other men who do not measure up. Men drop out from school in their teenage years than their female counterparts.

7.          Men who earn low income are often afraid to get married and fear that they may not be able to take up the responsibilities of being a bread winner. This is common in most African countries.

8.          #Migration: Husband scarcity is usually common among migrant population. The Indians, Africans, Filipinos and Asians may find it hard to get men from their ethnic groups to marry them in foreign countries, especially when inter-racial marriages do not often happen.

9.          It is a scientific proof that the girl child experience physical growth and puberty faster than their male counter-part, hence, where a woman is ready and ‘ripe’ for marriage, a man in his early 20s may not be emotionally ready to take up the responsibility of a husband despite being of the same age.

1.         The marriage laws in Europe and the Americas which, has given women the benefit of taking home a major share of properties and wealth of the husband in the event of divorce has made a lot of men to rethink. Instead of getting married, they have girl-friends not, committing themselves to marital vows. At any slight provocation, a woman is likely to go the court in these countries and ask for a divorce and by so doing, she takes possession of the hard-earned money of the man.

1.          Despite the evidently visible gap in the population of marriageable men and women, gay marriage has also aggravated the issue. Some handsome men out there are homosexuals. Although quite a number of women are Lesbians, the level of imbalance in the demographic structure would have to be ascertained.
          In conclusion, it is the societies where social expectations dictate the value orientation of the individual that such issues of husband scarcity becomes a psychological problem, depriving many of happiness and leading to depression, low self-esteem and suicide.